The idea of the party receives a wound.

These festivals every year at the same time can recall events painful. Fabien So he spent most of his Christmas board, far from his family. Only 2 or 3 students remained with him in college and felt abandoned at this time of year when everyone feasted. Now he is an adult, when the holidays arrive, he remembers the sadness of a child. So can he not play like the other ... Even if he is kind enough to pretend to her children!


 

Someone you miss ...

7 years ago, Lucinda has lost his son Simon 21 years in a accident car. He went on holiday and a drunk driver struck him. It was in July, but for 7 years, each family reunion recalls Lucinda absence of his beloved son. It's hard not to cry and can not enjoy this feast. Absence is too present for her. Everyone understands, but the atmosphere it is heavier.
 

Celebrations are a time of a difficult birthday.

"It's the eve of Christmas, 15 years ago, I learned that my mother had a Breast Cancer. Since then, I fear that time that reminds me of the announcement of this disease and all the disturbances that followed until the death of mother "said Sophie. And in addition, it distresses me as I approach the age she had, and it makes me afraid for me too. I feel both the absence of my mother, because at ChristmasIt is a child, and fear of one day having a serious illness. "Everyone can have lived a painful event for this time of year, making it more difficult to move in the right mood.


 

In my family, the holidays were always spent wrong.

"My father drank and we had virtually no gift because he spent all the money drink. I even remember that he had stolen money from my piggy bank a year, so that I could not even buy a little gift for my mom ... "Boris admits. In other families, the holidays are a pretext for confrontation family or settling of scores" So we understand that we may later come in December backwards.

What to do to enjoy the holidays?

It is not good to hide, repress his feelings and do "as if nothing had happened." To feel better, he should already accept. We are not supermen and our childhood wounds can remain alive.

It may be good for daring to speak to the entourage of discomfort you feel and its reasons. Lucinda whose son died, it asked for the whole family, 2 years ago to make a minute of silence to think very hard to Simon who was not there. Since then she has kept this ritual. That minute's silence helped lighten the mood and make his son a little present. She no longer felt to be forgotten and nobody thinks about him.

Fabien who spent the holidays at school has told her children that surround their disease. He said that ultimately, it's time to enjoy the affection he has not received and offer its children a happy and loving presence.

And even if some pain is there, it is possible to accept and allow another party to enjoy themselves really enjoying the holidays. This is a pity that old events are spoiling the happiness possible at the moment. So learn to live the present moment with all it offers, is perhaps the secret of successful festivals.