The authority is not superior

The adult is evidence ofauthority does not because it is superior to thechild. L 'child is not an inferior being, is becoming an adult. L 'authority should never be used to override the other or to show that it is better than him and that we have more rights.


 

The authority seeks to enforce the law

The adult must be proof ofauthority against a law that is set, not over his personal desires. "It is forbidden to hit anyone." "It is forbidden to fly." These are laws which the adult is also presented. Whoever enforces the law is not taught to follow. Even if thechild must lie in 20 hours is associated with a law that parents seek to enforce: "A child must sleep enough to be fit "Is a law of nature. If the adult asked the child to go to bed because he wants to be quiet, it would subject the child to his desire. And it would be a authority toxic would then be in place.
 

The law must be stated and explained

The adult imposes a law, but it can do by denying the intelligence and personality of thechild. It should clarify the law and explain. A authority imposed without any explanation or understanding will not be a good guardian for the child development. Therefore it is necessary that thechild is sufficiently large to understand.

If the child must go to bed at 20 hours, his father can explain to him that even if one goes down later, an adult must also be forced to go to sleep because he did not feel like do. It also needs sleep to recover and be fit. It is therefore subject to the same laws, although variations exist according to age or individual circumstances.

The law aims to be internalized

The purpose of theauthority is not being obeyed. Is to teach children that there are laws, which teach him and allow him to adopt them as positive. When he knows the laws, he saw them, understands them, he eventually appreciate and internalize. This will allow him to live in society with others.


 

The purpose of the authority, that's life harmonious society

When there are difficulties in proof ofauthorityIt seems essential to look behind the energy it must be shown, the goal we pursue. If I am authoritarian with my children, I want them to be sociable, that is to say, happy to live in society with others. They know both respect others and enforce. Keep in mind this goal can win orders when necessary.

If the law is violated, punishment is needed

If the child knows the law, if he understood, he must be punished when it is outlawed. It is certainly not to humiliate or hurt him, but simply to show that he has crossed boundaries and is not acceptable. When a penalty is given properly spent, it is rarely challenged. It is sometimes reassuring for the child understands that the boundaries are very clear to parents ...

So if you're afraid of command, scold, punish, punish your children, think carefully about how to do it is positive and helps them grow in harmony with their peers.