Lack of sexual desire: a problem of emotion

Myriam complains of never wanting to make love. "I feel very blocked explains it to her husband. When he tries to touch me, I jumped back, especially if the breasts. And the sexual area is still least conceivable to me that key. I have a sexual problem. My husband goes well, he wants and does not include any of my reactions, especially before, it was going very well between us, there including sexually. The husband confirmed that he understands nothing. Why did his wife she changed as well? The doctor or Psychologist is viewed, rightly wonder if this young woman has not experienced experiments sexual traumatic for memories rooted in its Memory which would cause the blockage.
 

Lack of sexual desire: desire and resentment incompatible

In fact, the reality is much simpler. Miriam feels very resentment to her husband. However, it is impossible to experience two conflicting emotions concurrently: the desire and resentment are incompatible. The stronger of the two emotions will prevail. The desire if Myriam resents her husband for a trifle, or resentment if the disorder is profound. Here, overwhelmed by negative emotions, sexual desire can not speak. It is yet present, but overwhelmed by another emotion.
 

What may be the origins of such resentment? They are very variable. For Miriam, it's simple: she works, she has three young children and her husband, who has the same trade it, never does at home. Worse than that, he dares to say "how does the meal Not ready yet? "She is tired of feeling like a slave in her own life. Aurelie, who saw the same lack of desire does not support the mother of her husband, she always takes precedence. Her husband eats every noon with his Mom and does not during the holidays, far from it.
Julie, she wants too much the father of her children. Even if they are married for fifteen years, they are still not married because of religious differences. He can not accept the idea of marrying her. She feels so rejected that paralyzes his desire.

Lack of sexual desire: the solutions must involve the exchange

So how to find a solution? If it exists, the solution is not sex! It requires trade to put the record straight! Thus, Aurelie has found his desire the day her husband gave her a letter he had written "You are my wife and I love you. You're the person who counts most in the world for me. Now, c is now my family because I am no longer a child. You spend before my parents .... But it took time for this man to be able to write this. For a man may have difficulty understanding the relationship between resentment and lack of sexual desire. For him, there are two cases that seem completely waterproof. But for a woman, it is far from being the ...

Finally, if the desire of your partner is dead, ask yourself this question: Did she (or he) wants me for something important to her eyes ? If yes, in this area you have to evolve to change the situation ...